Why is it that court systems enjoy wasting your time? I am trying to finalize my divorce, I mean hell it’s only been 15 months since officially filed. Today I had to take twelve hours off to sit in a court room for less than ten minutes just to inform the judge that we are still waiting on a bankruptcy because she won’t pay her half of it, and I am contesting custody. That was it. I took twelve hours off for that? Then to top it off I don’t get a custody hearing until April. Do they not understand that my boys are in an unstable environment?
Maybe I am overreacting or something. Maybe I am being too critical of the mother of my boys. Let’s look at this rationally. She moved out 18 months ago. In 18 months she has had 9 different residences. Quick math….ok she has averaged 2 months per residence. Well lest see they didn’t consider 5 moves in 8 months to be unstable so why change opinions now.
My oldest is going to be six in a couple months. He started kindergarten this year. He had been to head start or preschool which ever you want to call it, but he was so excited to be starting this year. In one semester he had been enrolled in three different schools. THREE!!! This was all by the end of October. Quick math again….that’s too hard, let’s just say 3 schools in two months.
Kids get into the damndest of things. I realize it can be hard to totally child proof a house. However, pick my boys up on one of my weekends and as we are driving down home I see my son playing with a shotgun shell and two rifle shells. I wouldn’t be so concerned about this except for the fact that they were still live rounds. He is sitting there hitting them together. Now I have guns in my house and I have nothing against guns in the house, but mine are under lock and key in a gun cabinet. How can you be so irresponsible to let your kids get into ammunition? Does he have access to the guns that use these bullets as well? What the fuck?
I am so glad that their mother has the kid’s best interest in hand. All the stress of a divorce on the kids not being able to see me as much as they want because she made sure to move as far away as she possible could. Three hours away from their home and their life as they knew it. Then to make it easier on them she had another guy living with them in less than a month. Too bad that guy didn’t make enough money or give her enough attention because she left him to move in with a different guy. Must have been a good move because she was engaged in a couple months. It was just too bad that didn’t work out because she fucking her daughters dad. So they were living together up until she dropped him to live with someone else. This had to be the one. Again, engaged in a couple months. He was great for her no job was able to stay home and watch the kids. Then one night during many of his drunken states he came home and beat the shit of her. I had to admit there was a moment of pleasure there until I found out he did it in front of my kids. If only she cared about my boys as much as she cares about her sex life.
So now I wait another three months to contest custody because for now the wonderful court system and Friend of the Court feels that my boys are being taken care of appropriately. I just hope when all is said and done at this hearing I don’t end up in jail myself for contempt of court because I will have very strong words for anyone that thinks my boys are in a safe and secure home. As soon as they realize that just because they gave birth to them doesn’t make them the best choice things would be a lot better off. Don’t get me wrong I am not a total father’s rights person; I just want what’s best for the children involved.
I had my vent, and I must say I feel better now. Thank you all for your time and listening.